[LollyLola]

@cjc123 2 years! Wow that’s awful!
@Em82 I only found out because he told me… said he thought it best to be “honest”. Shame he didn’t feel like that before we went on an actual date though!

[LollyLola]

@Em82 I think so and she says she doesn’t like it, but maybe you’re right! But she’s also been single for a while so I think she’s maybe worried of going back to that status!

[LollyLola]

This is a horrible situation and I’m sure you are constantly feeling anxious about the whole thing.
I agree with what “love” said above, you might feel better in the long run if you break up with him. Remember these things always seem so much worse at the beginning but as each day passes it gets so much easier.
It sounds like you are the one putting in all the effort at the moment and a relationship should definitely work both ways. I think you should start pulling away from this, you never know, it might make him realise what he’s lost too.
big hugs XX

[LollyLola]

Oh my god this is awful!!
What an absolute d***!! I hope you’ve moved on from that horror!

[LollyLola]

Hahahaha great way to look at it! I do this aaaaalll the time – makes it sound like I never get a second date hahaha

[LollyLola]

So, if I’ve understood correctly, you haven’t actually met each other in person yet?
I think you should just stop messaging him altogether. You definitely don’t want someone that isn’t thinking about you and doesn’t ever message you first. It should work both ways. Also, whilst you’re hung up on someone else then your closing the door on other possibilities.
I say, get yourself back on POF or Bumble or any of the other sites and forget about this guy that definitely doesn’t deserve you!

I do also know what it’s like to be surrounded by “happy couples” and so then it’s easy to get caught up in something like this.

End of the day, close that door and open another!

[LollyLola]

There are so many men like this! I think that they are just wimps and rather than telling us that they don’t want to go any further they just make us feel like they do and then just stop contacting us… they just aren’t brave enough to be honest. If a guy does this then he;s not good enough for you anyway.
Just know that it’s nothing that you’ve done!

[LollyLola]

Or maybe he wasn’t going to do anything because you were drunk?
Did you get the feeling that he liked you when you were “flirting”? haha

[LollyLola]

Things like this are just the worst! It’s just so disappointing and when you’re left with no real answers it consumes you forever!
It could be a number of reasons but if I were you I would just accept what he told you, that’s the only thing you can do. I guess it’s true that sometimes the spark is there and then it’s not. It sucks when it happens though.
Don’t beat yourself up about it (or at least try not to), by the sounds of it, you did absolutely nothing wrong at all. Just keep plodding on and going on dates! It’s hard when you like someone though I know, but you have to focus on you.
One day, an awesome guy will come along and you’ll look back at this and wonder what you fussed about.

[LollyLola]

Haha @HannahB no secret… just never like the ones that are interested in me! It’s a tough world out there!

[LollyLola]

I know everyone always says this but… when you aren’t looking it does tend to come along! (most of the time) although I will say, when you’re single, it’s hard not to look at all! I’ve had suuuuuch bad luck with men that I’m totally off them right now (Love Island isn’t helping), I suddenly have three men that are interested haha. I’m not interested in them though… Typical!

[LollyLola]

That’s awful! I would have just turned a shade of red and got out of there! Haha

[LollyLola]

Georgia is really annoying me! I felt so sorry for her with the whole Josh thing, now she’s ruined it. Those girls do not need friends like her!

[LollyLola]

Hi Faye – I actually think it might do you some good to get out there a bit. Doesn’t have to be anything serious, just might help you realise how amazing you are and also that there are plenty more fish in the sea that are there for the taking! X

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