@Em82 sounds like you’ve been in a similar boat to me. My ex (if you can call him that as he spent a year refusing to confirm we were in a relationship) ended things saying he just couldn’t do a relationship right now, needed to focus on studying. I knew it was the end really, so completely understood. Not to say I wasn’t devastated but it wasn’t good for either of us. And I perhaps naively thought that he was still “the one” having spent so long trying to make things work. This was actually our second go at things him having gone off radar the year before then coming back and saying he couldn’t give up on me. ANYWAY, cut to six months post break up? I’m here mulling over whether I should tell him I still miss him. We had been keeping in touch, I thought better friends than nothing, and as relationships are a no go I’m not worried about there being a nasty surprise. How wrong. Check twitter on Valentine’s Day to see him a new girl, an old friend of his, with (a quite frankly vulgar) card and a surprise date. So much for relationships being a no go zone.
I’m now trying to work out how to heal. I was doing well thinking I knew the exact terms of our break up. Now I think I’ve just been lied to for months. There is the possibility their friendship levelled up during the last few weeks of our relationship. Part of me still thinks we’re meant to be and this is just him having a weird moment (he has some mental health issues he won’t address) and that in the long (very long) run if we’re meant to be we will. The other part wants to know the exact facts (I kinda only know all of this from stalking ?♀️) so I know whether to rid him from my life as a friend and potential partner completely or if there is still something of a friendship that could be salvaged.
Sorry that turned into more of a rant than I’d intended