I signed up to a parenting forum a few weeks ago and ended up chatting to a guy through a single parent post. He was a nice, polite man and we have found ourselves in a similar situation. This particular forum has a private message function, so we took our conversation off the original post and started chatting privately … still just general chat about our situation and feelings etc. I don’t have any single parent friends so it was comforting to chat with him.
Anyway, a few days ago he messaged his number and asked if I wanted to use WhatsApp … I agreed, it was a bit awkward keeping searching through emails or logging onto the site to see his reply and send a message!
I added him and messaged through WhatsApp … and now I can’t get rid of him now! I get minute by minute updates of his day … I kind of don’t mind that, I get how lonely it can be being a single parent. But some of his messages seem to have gotten a bit flirtatious and suggestive.
I’ve never seen a photo of him, or him me, until we added each other on WhatsApp … he’s 11 years older than me and, looking at his photo, he’s really not my type at all. (I’m aware that sounds very shallow … couldn’t think of a nice way to say it!!) I don’t mind chatting to him but I don’t want him to get the wrong impression or feel like I’m leading him on. (I’ve been really careful about what I’ve said for this reason).
I feel like I want to address the situation … just so he’s clear what I want. I never signed up to look for a man … it was purely for the parenting aspect of the site! On the other hand, I don’t want to assume he’s flirting, mention that I don’t like him that way, and him be offended or put out because that was never his intention!!
@Love I already told him I’m single … doh!! Not doing very well here!! I suppose there’s no reason why I can’t get myself a “fella” in the next few days though! Haha!
I’ve told him I’m going out tonight (which I am later) so hopefully that’ll put him off a bit tonight!! Bless him, he’s messaged me every half an hour today … “just on my break”, “just having lunch”, “what are you up to?” ?
I’m going to have to hang on in there until he actually mentions anything about a date, aren’t I!? Otherwise I’m going to make it worse!