First ever date… Or two… Help!

[K283]

I’m 32 and never been on a date… Never been kissed or anything for that matter. – it’s all a confidence thing and I just don’t get out much to meet people

I want to change.. So I joined online…
Got talking to one guy a few messages to talking on the phone all the time .. met him twice – not a date tho, just have a hobby in common so saw him there a few times.
From talking most days to nothing.. apart from an odd call – prob when he’s had a few drinks on the way home from the pub…

I don’t even know if I liked him that way I think it’s the idea more of getting to know someone… Talking and building up my confidence ?

So back on the site and now talking to 2 others now. Which isn’t like me, and both suggested meeting up!
What should I do…see one? See how it goes? Meet both?
Obv with no dating experience I’ll be as nervous as hell too and don’t know what to expect but … ?

Why didn’t I get all this done n over with in my teens and twenties.. would make it so much less complicated .

[singleforever]

You should totally meet both of them! Why not? Obviously not on the same night though ? but do it for sure!

I just treat each date as “practice”

Let me know how you get on!

[K283]

Still messaging both… Not so sure on the one as the messages go on etc but other one seems nice, had video chat and hopefully seeing him next week! ?

[singleforever]

Excellent! Good luck – let me know how it goes! ??

[K283]

The one is a no go… After messaging a bit just dont feel it or whatever

2nd seems nice… Not met him yet tho, mentioned about going out for food or a drink but he doesn’t get paid for a few weeks and suggested coming to mine to hang out/get to know me… I know red flags should be going up and I’m probably crazy for even thinking about it ?

[K283]

Well.. was meant to meet him the weekend but he couldn’t make it in the end so he asked what I was doing Monday so was going to arrange to meet him then… Then nothing…

I give up! ? Thought I was actually going to meet someone as usually it would be my nerves/confidence that would end up me cancelling… But actually thought this time sod it, and was looking forward to it…. Typical ?

[K283]

Updates… No go on the previous ones in the end but got talking to someone else

Had two dates so far… 3rd this weekend and going good!
Have a lot in common which is good but also very different, he’s a lot more forward and confident than me but that’s good. I was just pleased I turned up to start with and went well ? Def helped with my confidence too

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