“Back with the Ex” is an Australian reality TV series featuring former couples who want to give it another go. It’s had our team reminiscing about their past and contemplating if we have unfinished business with old lovers. How many of us are thinking of “the one that got away” or the guy we didn’t quite have closure with?
A one-night stand, a holiday romance, badly timed relationship, long term ex that you just can’t forget…if you had the opportunity to give it another shot, would you?
The reasons behind the split will obviously have a huge impact on whether you would even consider it. Especially if there was some sort of deceit which led to the break up. Cheating is not only hard to forgive, but to forget is a completely different ball game. This would involve not speaking of it again and moving forward with no resentment. Easier said than done.
When we are feeling a little lonely or hitting a wall on the dating front, it is easy to look back at photos and remember all those happy memories. Have you sincerely missed them as a person? Or have you not met anyone else yet so you are convincing yourself that you could have the, “I wrote you 365 letters. I wrote you every day for a year. It wasn’t over… it still isn’t over,” moment from the Notebook. (If you haven’t watched this: Do it)
Another thing to consider is time. You aren’t the people you were back then. For good or bad, they may feel like strangers. It could be a complete disappointment and the person you remembered and have been daydreaming about all this time should have been left where they were: in the past. On the bright side, at least you would have closure enabling you to move on.
On the other hand, the care free, young things you were then have grown up and the timing is perfect. It could be the best thing you ever did!
Have you tried going back or are thinking about getting back in touch with an old flame? We’d love to hear about it.